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Expat sues Qatar employer after she was fired for being pregnant

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I recently wrote about the case of Srijana Shrestha, a 32-year-old expat who lost her job in Qatar after telling her boss that she was pregnant. She is currently taking her former boss to court for unfair dismissal.

Srijana contacted numerous Qatar newspapers about her situation, but none of them responded. This is why outlets like Doha News are vital in Qatar – we are the only journalists who will pursue these kind of stories, and without us, these cases go unreported.

You can read the article here.

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Going solo in the Gulf – what single women need to know

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Recently, I was commissioned by Telegraph Expat to write an article giving tips to single women who are considering moving to the Gulf to work. They asked me to speak to women about their experiences, and give them 500 words – I ended up writing more than three times that, as the subject was such a broad one.

Here’s the result – interestingly, despite living in different countries, the four women I spoke to shared similar experiences and had similar views – they all felt that their expat lives had been enriching (both financially and culturally) but also challenging, particularly when it came to dating.

It’s proved a popular story – it’s the most read in the section currently, and a precis of it was Doha News‘ most read story yesterday.

So far, commentators have suggested that advice about the availability of contraception would have been a good addition (if I’d had the space!) Anything else to add?

Here’s the full text of the piece:

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Families are the foundation stone of Arab society, and so it follows that the Gulf region is extremely family-friendly. Make the expat move with a spouse and children in tow, and you’ll slot relatively easily into a life filled with play-dates and school runs, and make friends through both.

However, moving to the area without a spouse and children can be a daunting and sometimes isolating experience. And if you’re a woman, plunged into a society where men vastly outnumber women, and where marriage is the norm, it’s even more so.

Recently, two high profile cases have cast a shadow on this particular lifestyle choice.

The alleged murder of Lauren Patterson in Qatar and the alleged rape of Marte Dalelv in Dubai gave female expats pause for thought, demonstrating a – fortunately, rare – dark side to the sunshine lifestyle in the Gulf. Examples like these inevitably provoke questions, and so we spoke to four women who’ve lived and worked in some of the most popular destinations in the region – the UAE, Qatar and Oman – to find out what life is really like for a single woman living there.

Safety

 

Firstly – should those considering a move be worried about their safety? Liana Liston, an accountant based in Dubai, believes not. Like all of the women we spoke to, she feels that the region is essentially safe, with a few caveats.

“Everyone knows that if they misbehave they can be sent home,” she said. “But like anywhere, if you’re going to get drunk, just make sure you and your friends look after each other. Although rape is very rare statistically, the woman is also sometimes accused in rape cases in the UAE, so it may be higher than reported.”

 

Beth Howe, a British journalist who lived in Qatar for four years, argued that while the rate of assaults is quite low, harassment is fairly common.

“At some point you’ll probably be followed in your car or at the shopping mall,” she said. “I had my bottom pinched in the supermarket on my very first evening in Doha. My father had lived in the region before me and he told me that if anyone did something like that, I should make a big fuss – so I yelled! The man apologised, then ran off.”

Social life

If your chosen destination is Dubai, winter sun destination par excellence, you’re unlikely to be worried that your free time will be dull. However, the same can’t be said for sleepy Muscat, according to Serena Evans, who lived in Oman for three years.

“It’s a little like Groundhog Day – which one of the five bars shall we go to tonight?” she said. “Lots of socialising takes place at home. The only way to spice things up is to abandon your British stiff upper lip. I heard one person saying to a complete stranger ‘I need some friends, I just got here, fancy going for a drink?’ No shame in that whatsoever.”

Although smaller than Dubai, Abu Dhabi and Qatar also have thriving social scenes, but, as Beth Howe pointed out, there’s life outside of the numerous clubs and bars.

“Now is the time to try something you’ve never done before” she said. “For example, Qatar has an active dive club, or you can take up yoga or have tennis lessons. All of these will make you friends and help you feel socialised.”

Dating

You might be single when you arrive in your new host country, but you might not wish to spend the rest of your life cooking romantic dinners for one. However, given the Islamic faith of the Gulf states, the whole issue of dating is, inevitably, a tricky one. Extramarital sexual relationships are illegal in the region, and kissing in public can also land you in trouble. So, how to negotiate this potential minefield?

“It’s definitely safe to date, but avoid public displays of affection,” advised financial risk manager and TV presenter Rachel Pether, who lives in Abu Dhabi. “It’s also illegal to live with someone of the opposite sex who is not your husband, but the police turn a blind eye to it generally.”

Aside from these concerns, finding a suitable single man also seems to be tricky for many. Despite a glut of dates (40 in just two years in Dubai) Liana Liston, author of blog datingdietingdubai.blogspot.ae, is still looking for love.

“Meeting single men for dating is easy, but finding the right one is hard,” she said. “I’d only recommend living in the Gulf if you would be happy not to meet anyone to marry here. It happens sometimes, but it hasn’t happened to me. That could be my fault, of course!”

Meanwhile, Serena Evans found that tracking down a suitable man in Muscat was “almost impossible”. “There were hardly any single western men in the city,” she said. “And I never dated a local. Omani men, on the whole, are happy to date western women but not to take them home to meet the family.”

Serena also came across many a married man pretending to be single, a point also raised by Beth Howe. “Many have left their wives and wedding vows in their home countries,” she noted, adding that for those who do find a single man to date, the very nature of expat life often leads to heartache.

“The transient nature of this part of the world often leads to relationships ending after a short time, and rather abruptly, and it can all be very painful,” she said.

Dress

In all countries in the region, modesty is the watchword when it comes to dress. Muslim women will feel right at home, but non-Muslims may struggle initially with the adjustment. As a general rule, aim to cover up shoulders and knees, and in some places, clothes covering up to wrists and ankles may be required.

Dubai is the most relaxed city in the region when it comes to clothing, although local campaigners are trying to change these attitudes. Other cities have stricter social rules.

“Abu Dhabi is much more conservative than Dubai,” said Rachel Pether. “I would never show my shoulders or my knees in the office. The beach and night clubs are a different matter, but carry a scarf or cardigan in your bag for a quick modesty check for your journey home.”

Oman is more conservative still, said Serena Evans: “Clothes I thought were appropriate on arrival, I didn’t wear six months in. The more covered I was, the more comfortable I felt. People are not used to seeing bare arms and legs – they stare for novelty, much more, I think, than to be sleazy, which westerners often don’t understand.”

Accommodation

Most of the women we spoke to said that although living alone was a perfectly safe and acceptable option, they felt happier finding a flatmate.

“Living by yourself obviously grants you independence, but parts of life in the Middle East are challenging, so it’s good to have someone to come home to, share a glass of wine, and discuss your day,” Rachel Pether explained.

Serena Evans was the only one of the four women we spoke to who chose to live alone.

“The area I lived in was very expat, and felt very safe” she said. “I had a maid and a part-time gardener. Both were concerned about my safety and looked out for me, but not once did I feel threatened.”

Work

Given the region’s immigration laws, all single women moving to the area will do so for work. All of the women we spoke to enthused about the career opportunities they had, combined with the financial benefit of a tax free salary.

It’s not all plain sailing, however. Serena Evans urged potential expats to take a reality check when considering their new lives abroad.

“Expat life seems very glamorous, but everyone has the same problems that you have at home, just in the sunshine,” she said.

“There were times when it was a normal part of my day to leave work and sit in the car and cry. I’d say that the good points in Muscat far exceeded life in the UK, but the low points were much worse.”

Rachel Pether, however, feels that moving to Abu Dhabi gave her career a real chance to blossom. “One of my favourite parts of the UAE is the emphasis it places on career development,” she said.

“Entrepreneurship and self-development is actively encouraged. Here, more than ever, I feel that it is never too late to become the person I want to be.”

Overall, the top tips from the women we spoke to were:

  • Get in touch with someone who already lives there to get an idea of what to expect
  • Make sure your employment contract is watertight. Have a contingency plan in case things don’t work out
  • Check you have good medical insurance. Local government health care standards are not the same as in the UK, and private care can be expensive
  • Make sure you know where to go for emergency medical care as soon as you arrive, and find someone who can act as your local next of kin
  • Invest in a few wardrobe staples that will cover your shoulders, elbows and knees
  • Consider finding a flatmate to share bills and keep you company

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Are the talents of many women in Qatar being wasted? My opinion column for The Edge

womanworkingBusiness magazine The Edge have just launched a new opinion column, “Qatar Perspectives”, and I have the honour of being their first guest columnist.

My chosen topic – the huge challenges many women in Qatar face if they choose to pursue a career. Do you agree with me?

Credit: Photo by Anya Quinn

Footnote, 2017: The Edge has deleted a lot of its website content – so here is the full text of the column.

The talents of many women in Qatar are being wasted

By Victoria Scott

There’s a lawyer I know here who works as a swimming teacher. I also know a physiotherapist working as a nursery teaching assistant, an engineer who’s an admin assistant, and a midwife not working at all.

They have three things in common – they’re all expat “trailing spouses,” they’re all mothers, and they’ve all taken jobs far below their qualification level and usual salary – if they’re working at all.

Expat women sponsored by their husbands are legally allowed to work in Qatar, but they face a range of hurdles in their race to climb the career ladder – or even, to be frank, to cling to the very bottom rung.

These include childcare, sponsorship laws, and a lack of flexibility. To get around them, many choose jobs that guarantee long holidays and shorter hours, often for low salaries and in areas unrelated to their particular expertise.

Although sponsorship is not an issue, many Qatari women also find it hard to balance their careers with family life. Although they make up the majority of local university graduates, only 35 percent of female nationals work. Recent research by Wamda concluded that this group also wants more flexibility, and different childcare options, demonstrating that, whether Qatari or expat, working women here share a desire for change.

I believe that it’s primarily childcare issues which are holding these women back. At the heart of the problem is a disconnect between school hours (around 7.30am – 1.30pm) and average working hours (8am – 5pm up to six days a week – and that’s being generous.) Add lengthy school holidays to mix, and you’ve got big childcare gaps to fill.

“Get a maid!” I hear you cry. It’s certainly true that a full time live-in maid is an affordable and convenient option, but it’s not for everyone – me included. Some families prefer not have a member of staff living in their home (live-out, unsponsored maids are illegal), and many more don’t have the room to accommodate one. And even if you have a maid, there’s the difficulty of school runs. Working parents often rely on taxis, minibuses or (often illegal) drivers – not an option everyone is comfortable with.

Qatar’s limited maternity leave of 50 days also puts many women off, and nursing mothers face a quandary too – under Qatari labour law, they’re given one hour off per day to nurse their infants for a year, but this assumes their baby is nearby, or that they have the use of a pump and privacy at the office.

For expats, the Kafala sponsorship system is also part of the problem. Part-time work and job shares are an appealing solution for many, but sadly, they’re pretty much unheard of here. Although a local-hire expat spouse is “cheaper” (only one half of a couple can receive allowances) it seems that many HR departments simply aren’t ready to relinquish control.

Many insist on sponsoring even part-time workers, an option some are uncomfortable with, given the control over exit permits, annual leave and NOCs that this gives their employer. Many women also report that salaries are very low, as employers expect them to be “looked after” financially by their spouse.

Some would also like to peripatetic career, but this is also tricky. Expat spouses need to register as “working women” with the government, and this process assumes that they only work with one employer. Qatar currently has no registration process for freelance workers.

Others choose to set up businesses from home, offering services like cake making and hairdressing – and as inoffensive as these businesses are, they’re all illegal under Qatari law, which requires all registered companies to be 50% Qatari owned and run from an office.

So, what to do? I’ve canvassed opinion amongst both working and non-working women in Qatar. They’d like “wrap-around” care at schools, provided by trained staff; longer maternity leave; workplace crèches; flexible working hours for school runs; agencies offering live-out, licensed, trained nannies; and the establishment of a “licensed childminder” scheme for out of school hours care in a home setting.

They’d also like job-sharing to be an accepted option, and freelance work and small businesses to be officially endorsed by the government. After all, nobody wants to break the law just to work for a living.

If just a few of these suggestions could be made law, I believe Qatar would benefit exponentially from the expertise, enthusiasm and experience that presently unemployed women could provide.

After all, as Qatar moves towards a knowledge-based economy, doesn’t it make perfect sense to make the most of the skilled workers who are already here, just waiting for an opportunity to show what they’re worth?

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